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CYBER OWNER & SHARE HOLDER ANISH YONJAN-TAMANG

Importance Of Communication Skills

"Identification is one of the key ingredients of effective communication. In fact, unless your listeners can identify with what you are saying and with the way you are saying it, they are not likely to receive and understand your message."

The quote above is the underlying factor that explains the importance of communication skills. 

In fact, there are other such quotes, which are as follows that explains the importance of effective communications skills:

Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after.

the newest computer can merely compound, at speed, the oldest problem in the relations between human beings, and in the end the communicator will be confronted with the old problem, of what to say and how to say it.

The colossal misunderstanding of our times is the assumption that insight will work with people who are unmotivated to change. Communication does not depend on syntax, or eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation; but on the emotional context in which the message is being heard. People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words are pursuing them. Even the choicest words lose their power when they are used to overpower. Attitudes are the real figures of speech.

Communication Skills

How do you develop your communication skills? Explore the related skills and look at the examples below:

Oral communication is the ability to explain and present your ideas in clear English, to diverse audiences. This includes the ability to tailor your delivery to a given audience, using appropriate styles and approaches, and an understanding of the importance of non-verbal cues in oral communication. Oral communication requires the background skills of presenting, audience awareness, critical listening and body language.

Written communication is the ability to write effectively in a range of contexts and for a variety of different audiences and purposes, with a command of the English language. This includes the ability to tailor your writing to a given audience, using appropriate styles and approaches. It also encompasses electronic communication such as SMS, email, discussion boards, chat rooms and instant messaging. Written communication requires background skills such as academic writing, revision and editing, critical reading and presentation of data.

Non-verbal communication is the ability to enhance the expression of ideas and concepts without the use of coherent labels, through the use of body language, gestures, facial expression and tone of voice, and also the use of pictures, icons and symbols. Non-verbal communication requires background skills such as

The Communication Process

Communication

That is what we try to do

Speak to those near us

• Thought: First, information exists in the mind of the sender. This can be a concept, idea, information, or feelings.
• Encoding: Next, a message is sent to a receiver in words or other symbols.
• Decoding: Lastly, the receiver translates the words or symbols into a concept or information that he or she can understand.

During the transmitting of the message, two elements will be received: content and context. Content is the actual words or symbols of the message that is known as language — the spoken and written words combined into phrases that make grammatical and semantic sense. We all use and interpret the meanings of words differently, so even simple messages can be misunderstood. And many words have different meanings to confuse the issue even more.

Context is the way the message is delivered and is known as paralanguage — it is the nonverbal elements in speech such as the tone of voice, the look in the sender's eyes, body language, hand gestures, and state of emotions (anger, fear, uncertainty, confidence, etc.) that can be detected. Although paralanguage or context often cause messages to be misunderstood as we believe what we see more than what we hear; they are powerful communicators that help us to understand each other. Indeed, we often trust the accuracy of nonverbal behaviors more than verbal behaviors.

Some leaders think they have communicated once they told someone to do something, “I don't know why it did not get done. I told Jim to do it.” More than likely, Jim misunderstood the message. A message has NOT been communicated unless it is understood by the receiver (decoded). How do you know it has been properly received? By two-way communication or feedback. This feedback tells the sender that the receiver understood the message, its level of importance, and what must be done with it. Communication is an exchange, not just a give, as all parties must participate to complete the information exchange.

Lack of communication about cyber

I have been talking with my online friend for a while now. I have posted about how I messed up in a previous thread. I messed up really bad. He is now only communicating through email where as previously we spoke on Skype, on the phone and facebook. But since I messed up, he only chooses to correspond through email now. I really miss him and I want his friendship back. We spoke about everything from religion to marriage and children to what we were going to do when we finally did meet. He enjoyed our conversations as much as I did until I messed up. 
Now I am regretting everything. I really miss him. I have sent him a few emails telling him that I miss his friendship but he still instists only communicating through email. Not all the time he responds to my mail. I understand life can get busy. I just want his friendship back, even if it mean's we only speak on Skype once a week. In the beginning we did speak every day, but I am happy to minimise contact.

Having a friendship online is hard because you can not see the person and it makes apologies and communication very hard. I do not know how to express myself to him. What can I do? If it was a "real life" relationship we could sit down and talk about it. I have sent him a clip to apologise and I am not sure if he recieved it. How do I get his friendship back over the internet!? I miss him so much that it hurts.